we could have literally no financial worries, she wants out.
Add me to the list too. W and I had no financial worries. We were five years from retirement. Basically, easily street. Then kaboom!
I think people define themselves through their adversities. We generally “need’” something to overcome. We look for a challenge, or more accurately feel empowered and have genuine satisfaction when accomplishing something truly meaningful and requiring significant efforts. If people ever solve all the world problems, we would inevitably destroy that non-adversity utopia.
Happiness/enjoyment is an interesting state to delve into and explore its underpinnings. “God mode” is about the quickest way to ruin a video game. Unlimited money, ammo, mana, resources, etc - equals no challenge. Kind of equates to real life. Think wealthy personalities and their scandalous affairs / arrests / situations / etc. Apparently money doesn’t only not buy happiness; satisfaction also requires a different currency.
The past five days, I’ve been working and sweating under the hot sun, building a storage shed with (and for) my son and DIL. The three of us worked some long days. Quite a satisfaction from all that labor. As well as a financial savings for them, and bond building between us.
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I agree. Divorce is so promoted to women nowadays that regardless of how many lives they upend, they're hailed as 'heroes'. I should have cancelled cable TV years ago. I remember back in the 90s and early 2000s, every time you'd turn on one of those stupid talk shows (Oprah, etc), there'd be 14 year old pregnant girls that were going to have and raise the baby. The crowd would stand and cheer at how brave these girls were. MTV would have reality shows with the same thing. Lifetime movies. Next thing you know there's a whole generation of young girls getting pregnant, so they could be 'heroes' too. I wish they'd check back in with those girls and their kids now. Statistically, 70% of the kids ended up in the system.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
