Also I remember the other night when she and I went out, she told me, “I don’t have my home, my things, or relationships with my kids or my friends.” My inside thoughts: “you have left all of that.” My response: “That’s really hard.”
This is perfect. Not saying your thoughts, rather identifying her emotional state. Do it with everyone (Your children especially) until they ask you for your thoughts.
Originally Posted by Rockon
She said: "I just need to be able to tell people, like so when people ask me about you, I can say, “We’re separated. Ask him.”
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
“ Better might be "You do what you need to do." or "Do not tell people to ask me. It is none of their business" or "I have no intention on telling anyone anything until we are officially divorced."
Originally Posted by Rockon
I might say what you have suggested above and tell her, “you can let them know that you left me, it was your decision. You can own it.”.
So I misread what she said to you. I was responding thinking they were asking about the state of the relationship, not about you personally.
This is how: H:"Anyone asks, tell then I am doing great!"
If it was a discussion the state of the relationship:
Red: Keep the desire to blame out. Even the "left me" should be "Moved out"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
