Ready2Change: “ Better might be "You do what you need to do." or "Do not tell people to ask me. It is none of their business" or "I have no intention on telling anyone anything until we are officially divorced."
I think that if W were to bring this line of conversation up again (I don’t want to have R talks or engage but I want to listen if that happens), I might say what you have suggested above and tell her, “you can let them know that you left me, it was your decision. You can own it.”
Also I remember the other night when she and I went out, she told me, “I have don’t have my home, my things, or relationships with my kids or my friends.” My inside thoughts: “you have left all of that.” My response: “That’s really hard.”
She also said her friends (which I understand to mean her new “friends”) all have said, “it’s no wonder you left,” to her. She said they told her that before she saw the sense in it.
I have been owning that I failed and my part in the demise of our M. I need to also be accurate (not necessarily with words) that W blew it up. Accept her accept reality.
