W asked for another talk today. This time, asking if I had thought about how we are going to tell our boys. I replied that I hadn't thought about it yet.
The wording of this is going to be important. I really do not want her to control the narrative and say something like "We have decided..." or "Your father and I have decided..." when I decided no such thing. I do not want to demonize her to our sons, but at the same time I don't want them to believe that I think that this is "for the best."
And she said that very thing again: "I really do believe this is the best for everyone."
She looked at me and said, "You want to say something. I can tell."
I said, "I've said everything I have to say about this. No point in saying it again."
Then I got up and left the room. I wasn't going to let her draw me in.
Damn, are you married to my W? I'm about to go through the same thing with telling our son, and I'm not sure how to handle it either. I know she'll try telling him this was a mutual decision, etc, but that's all BS. I guess the best thing to do is play nice and agree with her? Eventually the kids will learn the truth. Fortunately (maybe unfortunately) my old school dad, who loves my son more than anything, already said he'll frequently remind him who was 100% responsible for breaking up the family. lol
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
