So I guess if she wants to discuss terms, I tell her that I am open to discussing terms, while leaving the work up to her.
I strongly suggest that you do not have discussions. Ask her for her proposal in writing and you will review it. You can then respond in writing.
"I do not have time to discuss this right now. Send me an email and I will review your proposal...I got to go." then go do something. Stay busy. Be productive. Be on purpose.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712