Pictures. I get it, I overthought so many things along my journey.
Send H a copy of the pictures. They are likely all digital, so just email them to him. Include only a simple and to the point sentence or two. (For example: H, I’ve forwarded the pictures of <daughter’s name> graduation ceremony and some other poses.)
Let daughter know that you sent a copy of the pictures. Note, that’s sent, not thinking of sending. It’s after the fact in this case. You are not looking to get into a discussion or argument with D regarding her Dad. Other times and for other things you do and would ask for her input. All part of gently steering one’s kids. Leading by example.
Five years ago, my son’s high school graduation pictures were shared with W by me. And she shared her pictures with me. This year, son’s university convocation pictures are up to him to share with his “no show up to the event” mom. She was back and forth with texts and phone calls for weeks, asking son if she had to be there. She then decided to go. Then a week before, made further plans to go out for lunch after to celebrate. Then literally two days before the ceremony, she cancelled. She told son she isn’t going to attend. Her exact words: “I cannot sit still for that long.” So, in the end, she didn’t show. No lunch. Nothing. I’ve no conformation that anyone has forwarded any pictures to her. I suspect she’s likely pulled some pictures down from social media.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
