My Story

[Sunflyer]

Don’t suggest a trial separation. It will sound to her like you’re pretending to listen but your real end goal is to get her back. She won’t feel heard.

Didn't think it was the best option, but thought I'd get some feedback.

So this puts me back to advocating her moving out, if she really wants separation, while continuing to stall her D proceedings.

I have all the patience in the world. I am used to working and waiting years to get what I want. She isn't. There is a good chance her temper will flare and her resentment will grow as I continue to process things.

Her reasoning is that she doesn't want an acrimonious, lengthy court battle. Wants to basically self-mediate. Says it would be so much easier for her to make the break if I was a jerk rather than the good person I am.

If you’re having great difficulty with thinking a lot about the past, read my exercise thread which has a technique for controlling rumination.

I found this thread and will try that.

I wasn't looking for the old emails, btw. They were in a separate folder online that I'd forgotten about until I spotted it the other day. Most of them were about mundane things.