What you do now will not fix your M, but everything you do now may fix your M.
That may not make a lot of sense but it is true. As your W works through this, she will remember how you treated her during this. How you reacted, how you either tried to direct her, or how you were there to just listen, be her friend.
Knowing that what she says is untrue, is good for you because it helps you to not sink to your rock bottom, but you don't have to throw it in her face each time either.
Validate, not defend. Show her that you are different. Don't try to tell her, she won't hear it right now. But she will see it. If it is true. Believe me, they know when it isn't. That alien radar works really well.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
