My Story

[Sunflyer]

That is not emotional validation.

I know. That exchange happened when she first talked about leaving. And not knowing anything about how to handle such a situation at the time, I engaged the counterproductive behaviors.

Those were quickly shut down as soon as I found out that acting that way doesn't help.

Next time she is talking with you, really focus on studying what you are attracted to. Do not talk about your attraction with your words, but rather your eyes. Listen to her story without trying to advise, argue etc....what is her emotional state and what you find attractive are your top priorities...then remembering the details of what she said to you...her words to you are her story and you want to know her story...no matter how much you disagree with the words she is saying.

I have made it a point to look directly into her eyes when she talks to me, regardless of the subject matter. My eyes do wander elsewhere from time to time. I am hoping this doesn't appear "creepy" to her. Her face is beautiful, but of course I like a lot more than just her face. So my gaze wanders elsewhere. I presume she notices it. I listen intently to what she says, although of course none of what she says is relationship oriented.

She came home last night after being with her brother for work related to their business. I was in the bedroom, and she changed out of her clothes right next to me. I was surprised by that since she has seemed more "demure" since the fallout. Part of me enjoyed that it happened, and part of me felt incredibly frustrated since my mind went straight to things that are now off limits.