I'm full on in court. I have finally got suitable temporary orders. Australia simply doesn't recognise 50/50 for young children based on the research. I got the best I can until she's 5, where typically 50/50 occurs. Which was always my point. Nex tried to reduce contact with my kids and it didn't work.
Ex is full on abusing and twisting where she can, but it doesn't affect me. Court ignores it and and she is losing. I ignore it.
Regardless of what people think or say here, I'm dealing with a personality disorder. And I am taking on as much parenting as I can whilst trying to minimise the impact of counter parenting. The kids are in therapy and so far so good. They just know Mum and Dad don't talk and sometimes Mum does mean things.
Narcassim doesn't mean I'll ever be free of drama, but the combination of parallel parenting and court orders has put the kids in the best possible place for success. It means I accept nex will never change and I just implement strategies and techniques to deal with it.
I've spent over a year on a narc support forum as well as personal therapy to get to the point where I find that dealing with nex is just a job and I assume nothing. I act like I'm just a single parent.
Eight months on, nothing has changed in terms of "battles". She'll try to create them whenever she can. What's changed is my reaction. Steadfast boundaries.
Actually, I'm now starting to date, and it's refreshing to experience all sorts of different people and to meet people who are accepting of my situation. What a shock to date normal caring empathetic people. Been so long since I experienced that.
Anyway, I'm always grateful for the forum even though ultimately my marriage wasn't salvageable.
