Do not move out. Do not abandon the homestead. In some locales moving out has serious legal consequences. Have you spoken to lawyer yet? Ensure you know your rights and the best, worst, and likely outcomes in a separation. And do not tell W about what you learn. She is currently not on team Sunflyer.
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The possible legal implications of moving out were an immediate concern. I am awaiting callback from a lawyer and have started researching this.
My sister lives nearby, and I do see her frequently, but I have not spoken about any of this to her yet. My wife has asked me twice if I have told her anything about the situation. The second time was today. I told her no both times. On two recent occasions when W saw my sister, she thought she saw her making odd expressions and interpreted that as my sister's knowing more than I let on. During the unpleasant events of Mother's Day weekend, she became quite strident about this to the point that I had to swear on the boys that I have told her nothing.
Today she was calmer, and the brief reference to my sister is the first mention she's made of our situation in two weeks.
My current impression is that despite my earlier protestations, W thinks I am quite okay with what's going down and am simply to acquiesce to everything like a puppy.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
