Do not move out. Do not abandon the homestead. In some locales moving out has serious legal consequences. Have you spoken to lawyer yet? Ensure you know your rights and the best, worst, and likely outcomes in a separation. And do not tell W about what you learn. She is currently not on team Sunflyer.
Also, do not move out of the master bedroom. W wants out, let her move to the spare room, or the basement, or the Harry Potter room under the stairs.
Give her lots of time and space. Focus on you and the boys. Definitely, no R talks. (Nice definition by the way.) And let her do what she will.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
