I'd suggest that you attend tomorrow's event (if she has not uninvited you already). Make it a test of your detachment and inner strength. You have nothing to lose. Have a good time. She might notice and make some conclusions, but that should not matter to you. Otoh, do not go if she has been using the hosting brother as a close confidant and if he has been supporting her WAW disposition.
To my knowledge, she has not. I briefly thought about talking to him myself but quickly squashed that idea. Don't want to bring family members into it at this stage that may not be involved.
The only person that I know for a fact has some involvement is her mother. Around the time the you-know-what hit the fan, she said she went to talk to her mother because she wanted help dealing with the fact that she was "not in a good place" right now. She says that she kept the conversation to generalities rather than specifics of the situation.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
