Yep, W is likely going to become highly secretive. Step off the roller coaster. Turn away from watching the upcoming train wreck. Focus upon you.
As to the business, watch the accounts. Watch the credit cards. Be prepared. Or better yet, cancel the joint credit card(s) and get your own.
In my case, cancelling the joint credit card required me to completely pay it off first. And we just had a family vacation six weeks before the big bomb drop and her announcing and moving out with OM. There was quite a balance on the card which was a bit problematic. Still, it needed to be done.
A long time poster, and good friend, her husband took his paramour on a vacation, put the tens of thousands of dollars in charges on their credit card, and expected her to pay for half of it. Well, she is a strong willed gal, and she blew apart that fantasy of his in pretty short order.
Your W has filed. Be business-like when dealing with her. Protect yourself.
D
It was $3000, not tens of thousands.
And my exact words were, "If you buy someone a cup of coffee and it costs a nickel, you're paying for all of it yourself. I do not pay for your extra curricular activities."
But he did have a secret credit card, and because it was in his name only I was not responsible for it. However, any card I had access to, even if I wasn't the primary, I had to pay half of.
Terapin, there are many ugly stories here. If so inclined, you can dig them up in the archives. My advice: don't do that. Spend your valuable time instead meeting with your own legal counsel to determine your rights and go from there.
I'm sorry you're in this position. Truly.
DnJ - please don't reference my history any longer. I'm working hard to leave the past in the past and dredging it up is not helpful to my present. Thanks.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
