Hi. I'm certainly not an expert, and going through a D as we speak. But yours is a tale as old as time. Out of apparent nowhere, the poor neglected wife finds the courage to say 'enough!', and wants a D. 90% of the time, she's having an affair.

All I can tell you is this. Take care of yourself. Don't push her whatsoever. Focus all of your time and energy on your kids and yourself. God only knows what's going through her head. You'll literally drive yourself insane trying to figure it out.

Read the book. It certainly helped me bust the first time my W wanted a D. It's your best chance


Married: 15yrs
Ages: Me 49, W 44
Kids: S12
BD: around 4/14