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Thanks everyone. I mean, as far as I know, her L is drafting agreements for custody, debts, etc. We just need to come up with a schedule (7/7, etc).

I feel stupid for even asking this, but when I get served and if everything looks good, do I need to pay a retainer fee for a L? Is it possible to just pay a L a few hundred dollars to look everything over?

This whole sitch is just so bizarre. No discussions, no thoughts of working on M from the beginning, and fast tracking the D. I could see if there was abuse, infidelity, etc on my part. I still have found no evidence of an affair, but I wouldn't doubt there is. Just 2 months ago we were planning 2 vacations, enjoying an overnight trip with our son, etc. Then one day she basically says 'I want to give up half my time with son, our beautiful home, fully take on all of my debt, hurt our families, lose friends, etc, just to see what's behind Door #3'. I just don't get it.

I am far from perfect. I can be moody, I have little patience, and kissing her ass for years likely made me unattractive to her. But, I look 15 years younger than I am, I work out daily, I spend 90% of my time and money on our family, I'm loyal and faithful, I'm extremely low maintenance, I'm not on drugs, don't run around all night w/ friends, have a really good job, am well known and respected in our town, etc. Apparently that's just not good enough for her. Oh well, her loss. End rant