So when she says you’re in “denial” she means you think everything is ok because you two are cordial and you see your issues being fixable. Most men who come here think that as long as the provide, don’t cheat or abuse their W then everything is fine. That may have been the bar 50 years ago. She sees things as you jump through all these hoops and she gives you nothing in return because she doesn’t feel like it. She can’t figure out why you want to continue this dynamic.
She’s right you should cherish your W. She should cherish you back. That’s the only way relationships work long term. You each have to afraid of losing the other if you don’t step up to the plate.
