Jumping through hoops to achieve someone’s love is not an attractive trait which typically leads to loss of respect and attraction. Plus it leads to resentment and unmet expectations by the person jumping through the hoops. Have you read “No More Mr. Nice Guy”? If not it should be on your list.
Also if she’s telling you how she feels and it’s something you don’t want to hear and you label it “babble” and discount her feelings it makes her feel like you are not listening and understanding how she feels. This typically leads to sexless marriages.
Well you're right about that. I guess that's always been the nature of our relationship. I gave way more than I received, although I'm sure she wouldn't see it that way. Yeah, I've read that book. I was way too insecure, jealous, etc when we were dating. As the years went on I improved on those things. But her feminist (no offense feminists!) attitude of 'men should do everything and women should be cherished' grew out of control.
I say 'babble' because her saying our son would be better off having his world shattered is ridiculous. The same as when she rewrites our history. Back when I thought we had a chance, I would have listened and validated. But I'm not going to give her that satisfaction now since all of our lives are upended because of her weekly subjective sense of 'happiness'.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
