Heavy exercise causes your brain to reset its anxiety centre, so you start thinking with your frontal lobe, rather than letting your amygdala and emotions control you.
Keep it up.
I noticed in your last post how you said that her and you seem to be a bit calmer at the moment. That’s good, but don’t try to connect it to anything. Just because you’ve been doing A, and now she’s being a bit more co-operative, it probably has nothing to do with you doing A.
It’s just the natural ebb and flow. Keep your expectations dialled to zero, and expect the tide to change again tomorrow.
One of the absolute keys that isn’t really promulgated much in DBing is to minimise expectations. DBing talks about doing 180’s because what you’ve been doing obviously hasn’t been working. This tends to result in us we becoming hyper focused on analysing their behaviour to see if what we’re doing is working.
The best thing to do, is 180’s - but with no expectations. That way, you can ride the highs and lows of their erratic behaviour much more easily. I obtained great peace once I worked that out, and I only worked it out because my brother would say things like “Well, when you did XYZ, what did you expect she would do?” And if I was disappointed she was being an idiot, he’d say “The true sign of madness is perhaps that you keep expecting a different result from her.”
Tomorrow, if my ex rang up and told me the earth is flat and she has decided she’s a purple monkey, I wouldn’t be surprised at all 🤷♂️
Ignore and place no value on the fact that things have been a bit better. Head down, bum up and keep at it 👍
