W left her ipad on the table and this morning i logged in. Did a quick search history and it seems she was looking at 'how to win full custody' websites last night. Great. Guess it's time to prepare for war and drop the carefree 'as if' attitude.
I was involved in a highly contested custody divorce. We ended up 50/50. More money was spent on legal fees than she received from me in child support. If she would have invested that money, she would have ended up with over 4X the amount she received in child support.
I was parenting more than her before bomb drop. Crazy how twisted they become.
Prepare for the worse and pray for the best. We never really know who we are dealing with. From this point forward, don't be alone with her. First one to call the cops typically stays in the house and the other is legally removed.
After I realized I could not trust anything she said, I switched to email as the primary mode of communication. Long paper trail of normal parenting discussions.
Keep your side of the street clean. Do not give her any ammunition. No drinking etc.
I took a parenting class on top of all the reading I was doing.
We had a child therapist working with the kids. He was a great asset.
For now STFU and be very observant of her words and her behavior.
Read my tagline. Best advise I received while going through this.
I wish you well.
Yeah it's hard to not be alone with her when we're cohabitating. I did buy a digital recorder that I plan to have on me at all times. I wouldn't think she'd stoop to that level, but you never know.
When you got 50/50, was/is it exactly 50/50? I've read stories that guys have got that decision, but it was still more like 80/20
I'm out of town for work yesterday and today. She sent a picture of our S last night and I just replied 'nice'. I called and talked to him last night, but no calls or texts to W, which is the first time ever that I didn't call her.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
