They haven't seen what works and what doesn't in regards to saving yourself , which ultimately is your one best chance at having another shot at a renewed marriage with your current spouse..
So I have a flashpoint crucible conflict now in my hero epic to step up and be real and follow through to salvage an authentic honest life of integrity and purpose.
And…
Being "Rock" is what helped you get here....
So like the others have said, keep being "Rock" and work toward the result you are working to...
OR
Embrace what has been said to you, and find a way forward
So while I might not be able to fundamentally change my personality and makeup and I can’t grow taller, there are vital changes for me to make in how I think and act and find a way forward.
And…
You said you are re-reading DB/DR....
So how about maybe getting back to (or possibly finally starting) some DB101 principals....
Basics as I see them from my re-read for my sitch:
LRT - no chase, no pressure, no pursuit, no spying/surveillance GAL - for me Be strong, distill/clarify/live my authentic values
Watch and wait - so far pretty much nothing on the surface has seemed to change for the better with regards to the R. But, more subtly, I am doing better. I’m enjoying life without her. And we are cooperating when it comes to our kids and shared responsibilities. And we are not having R talks.
I am going to examine more closely opportunities for action on 180s
