So, W and I just had another 'talk'....She again asked why I would even want to stay married. Probably a mistake on my part, but I told her that in addition to believing D should be the last resort, the last few weeks have been nice, and it didn't seem like we had to work that hard at it. She said 'I've been nice and happy because I feel like a huge weight is off my back now. I figured you felt the same'. Then she went on to say some stuff about 'growing apart, not in love anymore, etc'.
It is a loaded question. No matter what your answer is, it is a mistake to have R talks. The bigger mistake is to give your POV.
Originally Posted by Terapin
The good news is, at least initially, W and I seem to agree on most things (selling the house, dividing debts, 50/50 custody). No spousal or child support, and we each take our student loan debts. I told her I'd consider giving her my vehicle in exchange for some household assets.
Originally Posted by Terapin
She asked if I would help pay her lawyer fees, as well as the filing fee. I just laughed.
You can suggest that you both drop the lawyers and fill out the DYI divorce paperwork. Do some online research BEFORE discussing this with her.
I just checked and my state has a $230 filing fee, which can be waved if income is below a certain level.
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