DBing is actually about identifying your flaws, it’s about personal development, learning to set boundaries, regaining strength/confidence - and learning to love yourself. You learn to place your happiness in how YOU feel about yourself, not on whether someone else thinks you are worth it.
Stopping self improvement and just meandering along until the next relationship happens is a recipe for disaster - either you’ll settle for someone who isn’t amazing (because you haven’t found self-happiness and need someone else to feel loved), or you’ll find someone … but you’ll make the same mistakes the second time around.
Also, until that piece of paper is in your hand, you aren’t divorced.
Now that you seem to have accepted it - why don’t you do something for you? You don’t have to sink money, time and emotional energy into trying to save it any more. Why not spend that money, time and emotional energy on something amazing?
How about buying something you’ve always wanted? What about a holiday? What about skydiving? Fix up that old car you have in a garage. Buy a motorbike. Buy a mountain bike. Go and do a yoga/meditation course! Join a gym and start a 90 day weight loss program.
We only get 80 laps around the sun. Now that you accept this marriage is probably done, time to start living 💪
