What is stopping me from giving them as much space as I can?
S’s needs are significant and occupy a lot of my mind and also my interactions with W. I work at giving him lots of space to have a life outside of me with friends and quality of life and I also work at having realistic expectations of his treatment team. It is really my collaborating with W to support his needs that keeps me interacting with her more than I want to right now. I want to give her more space than she is asking for and I have been successful with that in some respects. She has gotten upset at me saying, so what we aren’t talking on the phone now? With that though, I check myself first: is this necessary, is it urgent, can I email it, can I express it with less words.
Having said that, S has moved home with me this week. So this is an additional stressor. It’s going well. I am providing a great home for him and he has a great quality of life. And D is doing well. She is a fine young woman with great friends. I am giving her lots of space.
I really see overlap with DB and trusting and following God. Good points you raise. And this is a lifelong journey for me. And I see learning and consistent effort and discipline in the same focused direction as being consistent with both.
I’ll give some thought of there is a #3 and 4 to add as I pay attention to what I need and look for continued growth.
Last edited by DnJ; 05/15/2308:28 PM. Reason: Corrected typo.
