Good morning Joseph, I don’t know exactly why W said I need to give kids more space. I want to see them develop and mature as healthy adults. And yes it has been good for me finding outlets other than the kids: the solid friendships I’ve been investing in, a bible study small group, hockey, boxing, socializing, gardening.
The pandemic (social distancing, kids being in the house a lot, me being off work with ptsd and W working from home) had a big impact on our M and family. In some respects, we are still coming out of that and finding our way.
I have proposed counseling (individually or together with W) about our relationships with youngest S with special needs and W indicated interest. I think that W is just starting to reconnect more with our youngest 2 kids. And she wants the best for them. I think she may be beginning to consider the impact of her choices on them and our family. I think that when she sees them, she sees ways that they are wanting her as their mom and she cares about what they are going through.
So yes I want to give her as much space as I can and also give kids lots of space too.
