…kept wrestling with myself as to whether I need to finalize this now and call it over with H and start proceedings. I know once I do that there is no turning back for me.
Did anyone else used to get those feelings along the way? I feel ok now that feeling subsided
An excellent illustration of why we should not make decisions based upon our emotions/feelings.
Emotions will rise and subside. Acknowledge them. For that is truly what “they” are after. To be heard, not necessarily followed.
One’s feelings are an expression of their subconscious self. A mixture of drives, passions, questions, doubts, beliefs, uncertainties, ideas and ideals, wants and wishes, and so on. Hear them. Acknowledge them. And continue to follow the rational headings decided upon before, when more calm and at peace.
It is interesting how H lit up. His entire world view seemed to alter with some active listening. H is very much currently driven by his emotions. And I’d place him as a clinging boomerang type. One who still seeks/needs reassurance, even as they are pulling away. Like a teenager growing up.
Keep walking forward. Keep divorce busting and becoming your best self. H does notice and is inspired and influenced by your path. What he will do, what choices he will make, all remain to be seen. None of which should detract you from your path to whole and healed.
You are doing very well.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
