I feel I'm rambling a bit. I think there is some point to what I'm trying to say. I think it’s that I'm only superficially detached. Does this get better? Is it a time thing or should I be doing more?
There is certainly a time component to all this. You rationalize and seek to understand; control your thoughts and actions; focus, GAL, and live; do the inner work and become the best version of you; and time will work its magic.
Time is a companion along one’s journey. As much a requisite for becoming whole and healed, as one’s inner work.
Is it time or doing more? Along the path one has moments when they do more, other moments when they are still and let answers come. Remember, doing nothing is doing something. Personal growth, making changes permanent, and seeking inner self; has times of action and thought, and times of stillness and reflection. It’s in the latter when one truly hears, discovers, the deeper truths.
So yes, it absolutely does get better. Detachment becomes easier and easier, and eventually like second nature, a part of you.
A recommendation, seek to be still. While detaching from H and the drama of the situation, (re)connect with yourself. Seek you. Attach, if you will, to you and your life. In the calmness, answers will present themselves.
When boiled down, “doing” is at times doing something, and at times doing nothing, with time a steadfast companion. We just keep moving forward. After all, life is more about the journey than the destination.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
