Why do you think your STBXW told you to give the kids space? Haven't several posters mentioned you need to find other outlets then the kids?
Rock, you may read the advice, but you have yet to let it soak in and listen.
I've wondered if you are a fake poster myself. You wouldn't be the first. You just can't seem to get out of your own way even though you know exactly what you need to do.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11