I apologise in advance… but I’m Australian, and Australians aren’t generally aren’t considered very subtle. I feel I have to be honest here.

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Thanks Joseph sounds good- working on it

This reply to Joseph’s well thought out and challenging post tells me one of two things:

1. Either you completely lack the ability to look inside when people point things out, or
2. You’re actually a fake poster who is taking the piss at our expense

In the short time you’ve been here, you’ve made an incredibly high number of posts. Hundreds and hundreds of posts about how you’re “working on it” and “taking it on board” and “moving forward”. But you’ve done no such thing. You seem to suck people into your sitch, seek out affirmation that you’re the good guy here, but then when the going gets tough and you get a few 2x4’s about your DBing, you just say something completely dismissive like “thanks, working on it.”

While you’re getting sympathy or congratulations on your hard work, you engage and tell us at every turn about being a good person, a great Dad and being some sort of calm, collected DBing boss. But when someone pulls you up on obvious errors, mistakes or your continual addiction to contact with your ex, you completely ignore it.

You aren’t DBing. You have come here to seek guidance on what to do to trick your wife back in. You only take advice you like, and totally ignore anything hard or confronting.

On the one hand, your ex is confronting you about possible stalking and we were begging you to dial back the contact to prevent a restraining order. Now six weeks later - you’re letting her in your house.

I don’t speak for the board obviously, but I feel like I’ve wasted a lot of time - time that I could have been helping other people.

I wish you all the best Rock, I really do, but I’m going to take my advice and time elsewhere rather than bang my head on a brick wall. I really doubt this website can help you.