One thing I am finding helping me feel better is actually getting dressed up on the weekend and putting on some light make up again, wearing clothes that I haven’t for a while because I used to just live in activewear on the weekend. D14 has made multiple compliments and even asked me “where are you going” I said nowhere just want to look good today. H has noticed too he has asked multiple times if I am wearing makeup or said I look nice( while he is in the same rotation of sweats)
I did find last night I sat and had a teary on my own before bed. Just let myself cry and feel The emotions.even just little things like trying to plan a family vacation now I think I just plan for 3, my plans can’t include him so it just saddened me, missing the man he was(not this version of him that is emotionally distorted and never wants to talk about any thoughts or feeling, he never used to be like that). I am getting slowly stronger and trying my best, it’s just a work in progress
Just one guys perspective- we all have those moments. Don’t fight it and don’t dwell too long in the moment. W has been home since Memorial Day last year and I still have those moments. I miss what I thought we once had. Like I’ve been told on here, the innocence of our old R is gone. There is probably a great deal of romanticizing on my part. Regardless, I miss who I thought my W was. In time I think these moments become fewer and farther apart. Hang in there.
