Thanks Kind, I know I need to work on my emotions more and stand up for myself. Usually I would have been a mess for days but I got to work, felt good and had some laughs. When I received his text this morning telling me about his plans for the day and that he was going to take some space I read it and didn’t respond. I just left it and drove to work.( in the past I would have jumped straight onto it) bugger it I wasn’t in the wrong at all. Then a few hours later got a long apology text. Wasn’t expecting that but in a nutshell basically apologised for storming out when he felt himself getting angry and should have handled it better, then proceeded to tell me some stuff he has done around the house to “make up for it” as a way of apology.
This is another great lesson in why you shouldn’t catastrophise.
During divorce, emotions are cranked to 11 so there’s a thousand thoughts and post game analysis after every interaction.
You need to remember this experience you just had and lock it in the memory bank for next time. Some self-thoughts for next time this happens:
I’m being reasonable. I will be calm. It seems worse than it is. I over-thought things the last time and it turned out fine. Maybe he’s angry at himself, not me.
As you can see, SteveLW was right and is a DB Jedi-master-boss 😎
Well done Pattnee - you’re growing with each step 👍
