Again - please know this comes from a place of kindness.
Like Joseph, I was mega frustrated with your thread and posts, although I got there much sooner than Joseph did 🤣 - and weeks ago I decided to walk away altogether from your thread.
So fool on me (or well done you?) for managing to draw me in to respond. Perhaps I need to see someone and discuss why I can’t leave this alone 🤔
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I have made 4 new male friends - good fun guys I want to influence my traj3ctory. Actuallly that’s a new behaviour that has surprised W. The consistent effort and energy she has noticed me investing in these friendships.
Same old, same old Rock - just attempts to manipulate, veiled under the disguise of becoming a GAL boss.
I’m sorry Rockon, I’m just not buying it.
If you haven’t that IC appointment yet, maybe you should walk in and say “I’m having great difficulty accepting my wife’s decision and everything I’m doing isn’t for me, but to trick her into taking me back. I need help to actually move forward, not pretend I’m moving forward.”
Your ego is the problem here. Deep down, you are unable to accept that she has left and you’re using this site to try and find the quick fix to get her back on your hook.
Sometimes I give advice that people have to move on with their life, because it’s only when you truly realise you (and no-one else) controls your happiness, that you find peace and ever become fulfilled, attractive and able to be in a relationship again. I nearly always preface that advice with the caveat that by the time you do that, and if your ex wants you back, you’ll probably not be interested anyway.
I wonder if that advice is poor. It seems more and more people who visit this site take that advice as “If I just pretend I’m fine without her, she’ll get jealous and then she’ll want me back.”
Perhaps I need to reframe how I give that advice.
Here it is a bit more simply for other newcomers who may be reading along: - become a GAL boss for YOU, deeply look inwards and become a better person - you perhaps have a 5% chance of saving your marriage for ever, but either way, you’ll be a happy person on the other side of this, or - become a GAL boss for THEM, keep looking in that rear view mirror… and all you’ll do is extend 1 year of divorce misery into 5 years
