I’m still so lost -Pt 2

[Pattnee5]

Thanks Dejavu. That makes sense about validating, instead of complimenting which falls on deafs ears. Didn’t think of it like that.
And yea you are so right we can’t understand how they feel like this when we have so much love and patience for them and their terrible actions and reactions. It certainly is like being stuck in a rock and a hard place. I certainly don’t feel like he hates me that’s for sure, there’s geniune care there but it’s so buried deep within his emotional turmoil

He sent me a text this morning basically saying he wants a day of space away from us and will see me over the weekend during sports and errands with the kids.
It took all my might but I didn’t even bother to respond to that message, if space is what he wants I’ll make myself scarce when he collects D in the morning for sport and be sure to not be around when he returns.
I felt proud that I didn’t respond.
I am learning a great deal about patience and self calm. I was such an impatient person.

Tomorrow I’ll get myself up and put on some nice clothes for the day and busy myself out in the sunshine, walk the dog, get my nails done( which has been forever) and smile at as many people as I can-