Hi R2C, I want W to be my W, my committed partner who respects and loves me faithfully because she chooses to. I want her to feel loved, honored and cared for by me. I want a great friendship and partnership with her but I don’t want to only be her friend.
For me, I want my lady to be an exclusive, enthusiastic sex partner. The next level below that would be the emotional attachment. She definitely should spend significantly more time with me than any one else. Absolutely by her own choosing.
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What do you recommend I do when W texts me a video reel about some family dynamics from a psychologist?...I haven’t responded.
Correct, do not respond. I would definitely watch it. I would not discuss it with her, even if she starts questioning you.
Vague responses, at most. W:"Did you watch the video? 24 hours later H:"yes." W:"Bla bla bla bla" Rockon post how she really responds (vs my generic blablabla) and gets feedback from us.
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This is big enough that you can create plenty of space so that you are not crossing paths. Parenting responsibilities should be the only interaction and you can make sure it is brief and to the point.
Where are you at on your personal growth path? Are you working out? How many new male friends have you made? What type of new behaviors do you have that surprise your W? Are you more attractive now than when BD happened? Has your communication abilities improved? There are 100s more questions like this you can ask yourself.
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I am working out, stronger better energy. Getting compliments. Grooming and wardrobe current and sharp.
I have made 4 new male friends - good fun guys I want to influence my traj3ctory. Actuallly that’s a new behaviour that has surprised W. The consistent effort and energy she has noticed me investing in these friendships. I haven’t been broadcasting it to her, but one of my friend’s wife and W have recently rekindled their friendship (that’s positive).
I am more attractive now - better dressed, cologne (light but great smelling), PMA, string, grid posture, active.
I have therapy coming up today. Going to dig in and keep working on my growth and healing. Really processing my emotions and grief. Some acceptance happening as I bring lament, hurts, losses to God.
Been enjoying the outdoors. Friendships, working in the garden and on my place.
Back to my friendships. D remarked last night about my great friends. I had a friend over for dinner the day before and I made a really good pasta, paired with a nice Portuguese red wine.
