How will she know if you are the shinny new penny or the old guy if it's complete silence?
Lets flip that. Lets say you were with a woman and you rate her at a 5. A year later of her working out, eating healthy, seeing an IC, she has more stylish clothes, acts much happier etc...you now find her much more attractive..a solid 8.
You just know.
For us guys, you can work on looks maxing, but in my opinion, improving your behaviors is more important.
Originally Posted by TellMeSo
I get comments from everyone that I look better, that I am improving mentally and emotionally. My dad had a lot of criticism on me at BD, but now he is proud of where I am heading. I hope to continue my journey for improvement.
YUP, just focus on you and your personal growth. Dig deep into attraction and seduction. Know the difference. Each has its time and place.
Originally Posted by TellMeSo
Please do not get me wrong, I am not actively trying to save the marriage, but I think it is worth keeping some hope. Please guide me if I am wrong. I am a slow learner, but I learn.
Saving the marriage is an indirect action. You save it my not trying to save it. You give it your best shot by addressing all of YOUR issues. The issues that YOU identify as needing change. Have faith and hope. Keep moving forward. Don't be boring.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
