Which one of the DBing rules were you following? Who did you invite after that? Did they accept? If no one, did you go anyway?
I am sure I know the answers. None. No one. No.
Flip the script. Make a decision to do something. The more exciting the better. Plan on doing it alone. Be excited about it. Be mysterious is one of the DBing tools. Do not be boring. She thinks she knows you. She left that guy. Prove her wrong, she does not know you at all. The new you should be a shinny new penny. Enjoy the ride.
Actually I went for a walk myself. I am walking 7-10km these days to relax and unwind after work. Planning to go on walk with one friend tomorrow and then another walk with a friend on Thursday. Probably one of the reasons of divorce is not that I am just sitting around doing nothing, but I am actually too busy in life. I am reading a book and I've read that the average person watches around 4 hours of TV/Netflix a day. I can not actually remember the last time I watched something after BD. We used to watch things together before BD, but I am busy living these days.
One thing I keep seeing is people stating that you have to be mysterious and change during no contact period. How will she know if you are the shinny new penny or the old guy if it's complete silence? Even if she is checking my socials, they are quite vague and mostly other people are in my pictures, not me.
I get comments from everyone that I look better, that I am improving mentally and emotionally. My dad had a lot of criticism on me at BD, but now he is proud of where I am heading. I hope to continue my journey for improvement.
Please do not get me wrong, I am not actively trying to save the marriage, but I think it is worth keeping some hope. Please guide me if I am wrong. I am a slow learner, but I learn.
