It’s the inability to communicate with me like a normal human being about things that have a direct affect on me that really bothers me at this point. I know she is in turmoil but surely she understands on some level that these things are not OK.
I’m fighting the urge to point this out to her. I know it is the truth but I know that she won’t be able to do anything with that truth. She will say “I’m sorry. I will do better” and then she will continue to wait to communicate anything with me until the last possible moment.