In the meantime, I want to love life without W. I am avoiding unnecessary contact with her. At this stage there is a lot for us to deal with especially re: S.
I honestly don’t know what to do and how to DB better but I want to improve and learn. Some changes I have made in recent months: -no longer orchestrating family togetherness to include W -not initiating contact with W -24/48 hr rule -not apologizing unless I have done something wrong or caused hurt -improved validation -standing up for myself more with how I want to be treated
I don’t know what the correct approach is with the ball games and W coming to watch. I am a player/coach and our family is involved. We played last year as well and so far this early in the season, W is coming out to watch every time and she didn’t last season which was months before BD. She has reported to our kids and she told me in text that she has really enjoyed coming to the games. Could this be an example of do more of what works? As long as I keep my expectations dialed to zero? I really don’t know.
I wonder if the games are a place where she is feeling accepted in community.
