Thanks for the detailed clarification DnJ. It's an interesting one & I'll need to fully digest and reflect. I'm not sure whether I'm hitting indifference or getting better at detachment? I know that I'm starting to do things based on them making ME feel better as opposed to a circumvent way of grabbing H's attention. I'm rarely thinking of him with OW & when I do, there is no longer the urge to compare myself and experience subsequent fear and panic. I'm starting to see that there might be a better life for me in the future but I still get scared that I'll end up a crazy spinster cat lady!!
In terms of this week's GAL activity. I'm going about my daily business and trying to make sure I include things that make me happy. I've done some holiday clothes shopping this week and have bought a couple of outfits that I would previously never have even tried on & I like them! The reason for the trying new clothes is my goal to be more body confident. It helps that I've dropped 52lbs since BD but previously I would still not feel confident even at a lower weight with something like a jumpsuit.
The past 3-4 days have felt much calmer for me & I cannot thank everyone enough for all the comments and guidance on both my own thread and learning from others threads too.
