W came home from work and took son to get a haircut. She texted and said she was picking food up for him and asked if I wanted anything. I said 'no thanks'. I then got son ready for his football game, and W asked if I mind if she rides with us. I said that's fine. We chatted a bit during the game.
It seems to me like she really wants to D, and does want to make it as amicable as possible. Honestly she has more to lose than I do. Which is why her wanting to rush things doesn't make sense. I can usually easily tell when she's stressed, struggling with things, having a mental breakdown, etc. But she seems so upbeat and extremely focused.
I can't wait for you to talk to your lawyer.
In my situation my wife had looked at something that had her convinced that we could do a quickie, cheap online D. When I consulted an attorney he told me that in our state there was no such thing with a minor child involved. I'm not buying what your wife is laying down.....
Yeah, hopefully one calls me back someday!
All W said is she asked a lawyer that since there has been a 'total lack of intimacy', would a D have to wait the full year till finalized. Lawyer told her that it's possible to be final after 90 days. Also told her that since covid, she's seeing a ton of divorced couples cohabitating due to financial reasons. I have no interest in that, but W said that could be an option if necessary.
W also said that due to our lack of money, savings, etc, she's going to get a 2nd job a few evenings a week to pay for the retainer fee.
What's your thoughts Steve? IMO, either she's psyched herself up for this and wants it done asap so she isn't tempted to reconsider, or there's OM involved.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
