I just don't believe you understand how attraction works.
Believe me, I did not know before my BD. I had bits and pieces. And a lot of bits and pieces that were completely wrong. Way wrong.
How many people are in your town? 100? It seams like you and W do not get any space from each other.
I have not seen my X in several years, and she lives less than 1 mile from me. All my kids are now living out of town, and I see at least one of them every month.
If you have a goal of attracting W back, she needs to have the chance of missing you.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712