Can you expand on you’ve been 180ing the last month. What is different in the last month than from the previous 4 years 11 months?
I haven't brought up the relationship since BD
I've been much happier, more pleasant, etc on a daily basis
I've validated everything she's said since (stuff with her family, grandma dying, last nights talk, etc)
I've went 'out' several times without her, and without telling her exactly what I was doing.
I've been 'busy' most evenings and weekends.
I've done more around the house, somewhat in preparation of selling the house (cleaning the garage, work in the yard, etc).
Twice when we were hanging with friends the last two weeks (her idea), I supported her opinions on topics people were talking about. We had really good nights, where in the past we'd take shots at each other that often lead to fights.
The only thing that may not be a 180 is the relationship talk, because I never really initiated talks on that before anyway.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
