It makes no sense to me this whole H and our situation
Just a comment here about DB in general. Yes everything here makes no sense until you really understand it and get down to the nitty gritty science of it all. Which I can not do in a few sentences. MWD has studied all of this stuff and she recommends doing a 180. Why is that? Because on the surface that really makes no sense either.
However the science vs the science - it does make sense. When we do the opposite of what we were doing - we do what works! The person in crisis is going through something that makes no sense to them because they have had changes to them which does not biologically make things work the same way that they worked before.
Tread softly because nothing here happens quickly, your relationship didn't get here quickly and it is not going to be resolved quickly.
Keep making small changes for YOU. Not to win him back.
