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Well folks, it's over. As expected, while son was at practice tonight, W sat me down to 'talk'.

It was all business with her. She handed me papers, spreadsheets, etc. Said she's spoke to a lawyer, and since our 'lack of intimacy', we could probably get D in 90 days. I didn't say much, except 'i'll need some time to look at this stuff.'. She asked how I felt about it, and I said I don't agree with the D, I won't hold her hand through the process, but I'll support her decision. Also as expected, she went on about how we've already 'tried' MC, how we've drifted so far apart, and she's always had this in the back of her mind. I was pretty stoic throughout, but when she started talking about telling our son about this in the near future, I started to get pissed. Not sad. Mad. Like, don't sit there telling me we can get divorced in 90 days, then turn around saying how it breaks your heart telling our son, my family, etc. Son really wants to go to the beach on Memorial Day like last year. Now we can't. I said nothing though.

Anyway, for those that have been through a D, can you offer any feedback on these things?
1. She said the lawyer told her that if she gets her as a retainer ($2500), and we could agree on all the assets, debts, etc, the lawyer can do all the paperwork and stuff. But, if we start fighting about stuff, the lawyer would be 'hers', and I'd have to find one. Again, neither her or I have much money for this. I'm going to at least talk to a lawyer, but is it even possible to work everything out on our own?

2. She repeatedly was saying she has no idea how she's going to afford to live, and she's going to get a 2nd job to make extra money. She also somewhat asked for help for the lawyer retainer fee.
She says the only thing she really cares about is at least 50/50 with our son, and for her to get the dog (fine by me). I know it'll take some time to get everything together and to get the house sold. But should I start looking for a house now? Like, if/when this house sells, I have literally no place to go. lol.

So, that's that. It's funny, 3 weeks ago she said she'd possibly be open to working on things. We've had 3 good weeks together, and now she's 100% sure she wants the D. She again said there's nobody else involved, but who knows. Regardless, thanks for all the advice everyone gave. D or not, it's already helped me immensely.