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Ok, thanks for the feedback, and as usual, you guys are right.

I guess going into her office (I have stuff in there too) is an attempt to see what is going on, so I"m not blindsided with anything else? I think it's helpful to see what she is/was thinking regarding custody, lawyers, division of assets, etc. Maybe I"m wrong though.

I do understand GAL is for me, not her. I just never had much time to do stuff, especially during the week. For the last 6 years I take son to practice, coach his teams, etc. On the rare occasion I get an evening 'off', I typically just like to relax. So going out for a few hours was a big 180 for me. IDK if it bothered her or not. She didn't seem mad or anything this morning.

Steve, that's a good question, so I'll try to answer as best I can.

The past few months, neither of our needs were being met. So I started to ponder D. IDK if I could have pulled the trigger though, unless I had proof of an affair or something. A part of my stubborn personality is not quitting or giving up on stuff.

So to answer your question, yes, I still love my W. I love our family, what we've built together, etc. I'm still of the opinion that IF we both recommit and put in the work, we could have a good (not perfect) marriage. So I do lean towards saving the M, at least with the information I have now (no proof of A, etc).

That being said, I honestly wouldn't be completely devastated if we moved forward with D. I know it will suck, but I also know that I'll be fine, and maybe better off in the long run. Mentally I feel pretty good.