No not a mistake in my book - way to GAL. Now do it again. And don’t worry be happy.
I went into her office this morning and some of the divorce stuff she had 'hidden' was now openly on her desk. So she was obviously working on something, for the first time in a few weeks.
I do think sometimes GAL backfires
I'm confused why you think that. What backfires is going into her office to see what she was up to. None of that matters. I told you about my wife and her divorce documentation. None of that means anything. I'm with boat, not sure how you sitting on the couch vs. going and getting some GAL is better??
GAL, 180s, and detachment aren't about saving the marriage. This is what most LBSs do not get. If you are doing these things solely because of the effect it has on her, then you're doing it wrong. Those things are for you, not her. Not the marriage. It is counterintuitive but the best way to save the marriage is to not try to save it!
I am confused though. For someone that isn't even sure if he wants to save the marriage, you seem awfully afraid of her divorcing you. Can you consider that and explain it to us?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
