I went into her office this morning and some of the divorce stuff she had 'hidden' was now openly on her desk. So she was obviously working on something, for the first time in a few weeks.
I do think sometimes GAL backfires
You are jumping to conclusions. The only thing, is that W was looking at her paperwork. Perhaps she was reconsidering. Or perhaps she was working on it. Or perhaps something else. In any event, why did she not hide it away again? Don’t fool yourself, she left those out on purpose.
To me, she left the papers out, staged it for you to see. All in an effort to hook you back in. To stir your emotions and get you back upon the shelf. She noticed you. And likely reacted.
Best you can do, don’t react. Initiate nothing regarding the displayed paperwork. It’s her divorce, let her bring it up if she wants to. She is looking for a fight, for a reason, for justifications. Remain kind and cordial, and keep doing you.
GAL doesn’t backfire. The problems come if you are doing it as a ploy. Getting a life, is for you. Make those changes permanent and for you, not an attempt to lure W back.
Time is your ally in all this. Time for W’s present emotions to calm and extinguish. Time for her other feelings to surface. Guilt, remorse, sadness, loss, and so on. If you resupply her justifications and such, she will not get to feel these other emotions that may work in your favour. Dig for patience and stick to the path. Time and space. GAL. It is working after all, she did notice you.
Keep moving forward. Become Terapin2.0, the best version of you.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
