MWD does mention imagining a large red stop sign to halt one’s runaway emotions and thoughts. Your controlled effort last night was perfect. I really like the added mantra to reinforce the effort as well.
Originally Posted by Pattnee5
Tonight after putting kids to bed I started to get teary thinking “ it’s been 7 weeks since he moved out the longer it goes on the less chance he will come home” (of course I also started googling things which say after 6 months your chance is very low of reconciling so this of course was wrong and tears started to fill my eyes I felt the emotions coming and boiling up and then I just closed my eyes visualised a giant stop sign and told myself “I can’t fix him this is his issues and I can’t let them drag me down anymore” tears subside and can continue with my evening and finishing off DR finally. I am about to start to read It all over again ( why not). So a very tiny win I guess but I have a few phrases each time my thoughts to wayward and so far so good.
A snippet from the internet of the stop technique for anxiety.
S: Stop. Whatever you're doing, just pause momentarily. T: Take a breath. Re-connect with your breath. The breath is an anchor to the present moment. O: Observe. Notice what is happening. What is happening inside you, and outside of you? P: Proceed. Continue doing what you were doing.
It’s a simple and effective, a temporary redirection of yourself to gain influence upon your emotions. I’d also suggest that whatever feeling you are temporarily “stopping”, you seek to explore during your scheduled time. Feelings are indicative of things within, stuff which needs to be expressed and felt and let go. Otherwise it builds up.
Yes, it is a win. Those internal shifts chip away at our emotion’s hold upon us. You rationalized your path forward out of it. A step towards detachment. Well done.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
