Pattnee, for me it was a lightbulb moment. My situation in 2017 was our second. I learned about DBing in 2005 when my wife first BD me. So after a couple of days of moping and being sad after BD 2017, it hit me. I had to go back to DB. I.had to go back to letting her go.

The thing I realized was that nothing I did or said mattered. If she wanted to divorce me she would. All I could do is GAL, 180, and detach for me! Not to try to save my marriage but because I wanted to be the best version of myself that I could be.

So that's what I focused on. And over time detachment got easier and I got better at it.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018