I’m still so lost

[Ready2Change]

a simple statement like "I've already expressed remorse about the past, I cannot continue to apologize for things I've already said I was sorry about."

Also, it is good to have a few "canned" responses, but not to be a broken record with them.

A couple I have are:

"I wish I could change the past" or "I can't change the past"

Since we are talking apologizing, from my notes:

Gain Forgiveness Pattern-Minimize damage (“Make peace with anyone” by Lieberman p82)
Apologize (I am sorry...)
depersonalize (place action in larger context)
shift intentions (I was trying...)
solidify commitment to change (take concrete steps to assure no repeats)
restore balance (put energy into relationship)
Example” I am very sorry I put a dent in your car. Nothing was going right that day. I didn’t want to give it to the valet because I know how much you love your car. So when I parked it myself on the street, that’s when it got hit. I’ve already called several places and got quotes. I’ll take care of it anyway you want. You can either give me the insurance information or I can give you the quotes. I am also going to have them detail the entire car so it will look like new. That’s on me. I feel so badly about this happening.”